For all of us who have been wounded by another and struggled to understand and move beyond our feelings of hurt and anger, Lewis Smedes’s classic book on forgiveness shows that it is possible to heal our pain and find room in our hearts to forgive. Breaking down the process of healing into four stages and offering stories of real people’s experience throughout, this wise book provides hope and solace for all who long for the peace that comes with forgiveness. This classic is now available in an updated paperback PLUS edition with a reader’s guide and other bonus materials.
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- Sales Rank: #17376 in Books
- Published on: 2007-09-25
- Released on: 2007-09-25
- Original language:
English
- Number of items: 1
- Dimensions: .49″ h x
5.34″ w x
7.96″ l,
.33 pounds
- Binding: Paperback
- 192 pages
Forgive and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve
I purchased three books on the subject of forgiveness: “Forgive and forget: healing the hurts we dont deserve”, “From anger to forgiveness a practical guide to
Forgiveness: Healing the Hurt We Never Deserved – sermon
Topics discussed in this sermon: Forgiveness, Sin, God, Marriage & Family, Love, Anger, Courage and more. Speaker and author Ray Pritchard is the founder and
Lewis B. Smedes – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Lewis Benedictus Smedes (August 20, 1921 December 19, 2002) was a renowned Christian author, ethicist, and theologian in the Reformed tradition. He was a
50 Quotes on Forgiveness – Iloveulove
Fifty Quotes on Forgiveness. Lewis B. Smedes – Forgive & Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve “Forgiveness is God’s invention for coming to terms with a world
How To Forgive Those Who Have Hurt You – Deliberate
For me the bottom line is that when you dont forgive and move on, what you have effectively done is to let a person, situation or event have power over you.
Sometimes we forgive prematurely and then feel bad that we
Sometimes we forgive prematurely and then feel bad that were not able to let go of the situation
How To Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You – Dr. Ben Kim
11 Comments: Rebekah Bartel said I agree with Dr. Ben Kim above. The people who have hurt us did not start out as bitter, aggressive, or neglectful of others.
Is Total Forgiveness Realistic? – sermon by Dr. Ray
Topics discussed in this sermon: God, Sin, Forgiveness, Grace, Anger, Love, War and more. Speaker and author Ray Pritchard is the founder and president of Keep
The Forgiveness Letter | The American Monk
154 Comments on The Forgiveness Letter – Post your own? C says. Dear Liv, We were in love and dated for 3 troubled years. I had not been a hundred percent
What Does the Bible Say About Forgiveness? A Biblical Study
Hi Derek it mentioned above don`t forget about your repentant heart. What is this. I am beginning to lack faith that you just ask God to forgive you,and he does has
- Sales Rank: #17376 in Books
- Published on: 2007-09-25
- Released on: 2007-09-25
- Original language:
English
- Number of items: 1
- Dimensions: .49″ h x
5.34″ w x
7.96″ l,
.33 pounds
- Binding: Paperback
- 192 pages
For all of us who have been wounded by another and struggled to understand and move beyond our feelings of hurt and anger, Lewis Smedes’s classic book on forgiveness shows that it is possible to heal our pain and find room in our hearts to forgive. Breaking down the process of healing into four stages and offering stories of real people’s experience throughout, this wise book provides hope and solace for all who long for the peace that comes with forgiveness. This classic is now available in an updated paperback PLUS edition with a reader’s guide and other bonus materials.
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33 of 39 people found the following review helpful.
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By Brian
I purchased three books on the subject of forgiveness: “Forgive and forget: healing the hurts we dont deserve”, “From anger to forgiveness a practical guide to breaking the negative power of anger and achieving reconciliation”, and “Forgiveness: how to make peace with your past and get on with your life”.Forgiveness: how to make peace with your past and get on with your life was by far the most helpful. It is the most practical and the most comprehensive of the three books I purchased. The book explains the what (forgiveness is), why (forgive and humans experience stumbling blocks), and also the how (to forgive).I found from anger to forgiveness to be the second best. It had some good practical advice and steps, but did not go into the same level of detail that forgiveness did.Forgive and forget was the least effective of the three books. It had very few practical steps or solutions. The book spoke at length about theory and did not ever arrive at practical conclusions or steps to take. The story in the very beginning was the closest the book ever came to defining the path to forgiveness.
11 of 11 people found the following review helpful.
Insight into the wonder of forgiveness
By Traci Stalsberg
Warm and witty, this book and its insights will free you to consider the possibilities and beauty of forgiveness. The author gave me the hope I desperately needed. He made me realize that forgiveness is not something in which we snap our fingers or make a quick, one-time decision and it’s a done thing; but rather a process by which we travel through stages to reach the place where your memory is healed and you turn back the flow of pain from the past and are free again.The four stages are: Hurt, Hate, Healing, and Coming Together. Each stage must be worked through and processed for the offended person to become truly free. At first I was a little afraid of the “hate” stage because, as a Christian, I was reluctant to admit I actually did hate the person who hurt me. But now I understand that to hate your enemy is to be completely unable to stop dwelling on the hurt they caused, and unable to wish them well. Ah-hah! That I could totally identify with and furthermore, I discovered that if I wanted the healing of forgiveness, then I must confess that this is the exact place I find myself so that I’ll be able to employ the tools that will move me towards the next stage. While forgiving in itself is a simple act, it is done within a mix of complex emotions. To deny them is to sweep them under the rug where no light can reach them. Truthfully, when I started out reading this book I had hoped for a “quick fix,” but Lewis Smedes has convinced me that the destination is worth the journey.Within the pages of Forgive and Forget are many stories of real people mixed in, some with experiences so painful that you are completely inspired to follow them in the mystery of forgiving. Many of their stories are written about in chapters dealing with people who are hard to forgive. These chapters are: Forgiving The Invisible People, Forgiving People Who Do Not Care, Forgiving Ourselves, Forgiving Monsters, and Forgiving God. The chapter on Forgiving People Who Do Not Care was especially relevant to me because the woman who deeply wounded me insists she did nothing wrong. Also, if you do not know the story of Nazi concentration camp survivor and Christian author Corrie Ten Boom’s crisis of forgiveness, you will be touched to read about it here as well.Then there’s Part 3, and perhaps the most affirmimg for me, which is titled, “How People Forgive.” I love his words that begin this section – “Forgiving is love’s revolution against life’s unfairness. When we forgive, we ignore the normal laws that strap us to the natural law of getting even and, by the alchemy of love, we release ourselves from our own painful pasts. We fly over a dues-paying morality in order to create a new future out of the past’s unfairness. We free ourselves from the wrong that is locked into our private histories; we unshackle our spirits from malice.” This is exactly what I want! Again, by coming at this with the knowledge that we forgive “slowly,” sometimes “in confusion,” oftentimes “with anger left over,” “a little at a time,” and “freely, or not at all” helped me feel reassured that I’m on my way.The very last section is an excellent essay on, “Why Forgive?” With convincing words he puts forth his best argument for forgiving versus hating and getting revenge. I won’t go into detail here but suffice it to say that if you’re thinking that maybe forgiving isn’t worth your time and effort, or that another way may be better, you will be challenged within these pages. I hope then you will consider his case. In closing, contemplate these words from page 133, “When you release the wrongdoer from the wrong, you cut a malignant tumor out of your inner life. You set a prisoner free, but you discover that the real prisoner was yourself.”
8 of 8 people found the following review helpful.
best book on forgiveness!
By Donner C. S. Tan
This is the best book I’ve ever read on the subject of ‘forgiveness’. It is written with wit, biblical wisdom, practicality and compassion. It first disabuses you of all the caricatures of what forgiveness is – excusing, tolerating, condoning, etc. Then, as usual, Smedes comes at the subject with his typical hard-nosed treatment. In forgiving someone, the sin has to be grappled with for what it is – wrong, unfair, evil and hurtful. One should not simply gloss over and get over it but take it into account, experience deeply the horrendous evil that it is and call it to curse. It is in confronting sin as it is and coming to grips with the the deep hurts that it brings, that one could ever go on to slowly let go of the associated onslaught of anger and resentment. It is a long journey for most and one might have to forgive the same sin by the same person over and over again. One comes to know that forgiveness is beginning to bear fruit when one begins to see the adversary with new (‘magic’) eyes and the event of the hurt with a new perspective that sets one’s heart free to love. While the goal of forgiveness includes the healing of the aggrieved, it also opens up the real possibility of reconciliation. But Smedes wisely cautions that reconciliation takes two parties and on this side of eternity, forgiveness needs not hang on reconciliation for its completion. This is as realistic as one can get.In recent years, Smedes has been criticised (unfairly IMHO) for operating too much under the therapeutic mode and falling short of the reconciliation aimed at by the biblical ideals by such books as ‘Embodying Forgiveness’ by Gregory Jones. While the latter is a fine book to be read profitably in its own right, its critique of Smedes is in my reading wide off the mark. Smedes was charged as advocating a kind of forgiveness that is aimed primarily at healing the individual’s hurts and ignoring the larger issues of sins, culpability, repentance and reconciliation. I think given Smedes’ more modest aim in focusing on the discipline and experience of forgiveness in this book, he has simply been criticised for not writing beyond the scope of what he intends to focus on.I think this book should simply be taken on its own merits. One has to read it to see that Smedes writes not only with academic precision but also hard-won compassion culled from the tough work of forgiving your debtors in this broken world. It is an immensely liberating and life-transforming work!
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